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What’s Happening at The Cove – September 2015


“For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed,
but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.” Isaiah 54:10

We’ve had a busy summer with lots of great ministry taking place on this mountain–we give thanks and praise to the Lord for that!

We’re looking forward to what we have in store for September too!  Scroll down and see what we’ve got scheduled.  We hope to see you then.


Click on the link below for September dates or call 1-800-950-2092.
September Personal Spiritual Retreats


MILITARY MARRIAGE  RETEAT— God and Family: Enhancing Your Most Important Relationships (Free to active duty military personnel & spouses.)
with Gary Chapman,  September 4-6, 2015
NOTE: Lodging is full at this time, however there is still room available in the seminar.

PASTORS’ INSTITUTE The Stewardship of Influence and Spiritual Leadership (Free to qualifying pastors & spouses.)
 with Johnny Hunt, September 8, 2015
3 rooms still available for optional “Stay Over” on the 8th.

Spiritual Infiltration: Apostasy Through Jude’s Eyes
(Free to qualifying pastors & spouses.)
with Jerry Vines,  September 9-11, 2015
NOTE: Lodging is full at this time, however there is still room available in the seminar.

SeniorCelebration— Joy for the Journey: Making Our Latter Days Our Best Days! — SOLD OUT
David Bruce with Guy Penrod,  September 14-16, 2015

Wisdom: The Greatest Gift
with R.T. Kendall,  September 20-22, 2015

What The Church Can Be
with Bob Russell,  September 22-24, 2015

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7 Steps on How to Respond to an Angry Person

Sticks and Stones may Break my Bones But Words Will Always Hurt MeRemember the childhood saying about sticks and stones?  As we all eventually learn, words can cut us to the core.

Have you ever been angry with someone and lashed out with hurtful words or actions you wished you could take back?

Have you noticed that sometimes it is the people closest to us are the first to catch the worst of our anger?  Whether it be a spouse, your child, or a close friend. 

Over the weekend, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, addressed the topic of anger in relationships as he ministered to 150 couples who were attending our military marriage retreat weekend. (Click here to see pictures from the weekend.) 

Anger can be an issue in any marriages, but because of the unique nature of military marriages with long periods of separation and sometimes very little communication, this emotion rears its ugly head all too often.   In an effort to provide helpful tools that can be applied to any relationship, Dr. Chapman shared the following 7 steps on how to respond to an angry person:

1. Listen to the person who is angry.  Hear them out.  Just LISTEN.  James 1:19 tells us,  Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.  Try to remember that the person who is angry with you is angry because, in their mind, you did wrong.  You will never get to the root of the issue until you listen and find out what is/has bothered the angry person.

2. Listen to the person who is angry.  Yes, we are repeating step 1–that’s how important it is!  In most cases, people don’t hear most of what was said the first time.  In the heat of the moment, angry word poured it out to you, but you didn’t hear it all.

3. Listen to the person who is angry.  Are you starting to get the gist of how important listening is?  Listen at least 3 times.  The issue will not be resolved until the angry person has been very clearly heard.

4. Seek to understand the angry person.  Put yourself in their shoes and try to see the world through their eyes.  You cannot have a proper understanding until you understand where they are coming from.

5. Express understanding to the angry person.  Try a statement like this: “If I were in your shoes, I’m sure I would be angry also.”   6. Share additional information.  You can now give your perspective on the situation.  The benefit of this step is that through this process you are teaching others how to respond to an angry person. (This is also an excellent way to model healthy communication in front of your children.)

7. Confess any wrongdoing.   Admit your wrongdoing if they have a legitimate reason for their anger.  This step will also build trust.  It’s a big step for most people to admit when they are wrong.

Active-duty, Guard and Reserve military service-members can attend seminars, concerts and retreats at The Cove at no costClick here for more information.

Click here to see what’s going on at The Cove in the coming months.

Honoring Love

You could cut the tension with a knife.

A couple walked into the Billy Graham Training Center last year to attend a Military Marriage Retreat. 

This retreat was a last resort for their failing marriage.

Two days later, after many hours of Bible teaching, daily devotions, much needed time in prayer, walking the trails, fellowshipping with other military couples, marital workshops and pastoral counseling, this same couple walked out hand in hand with a new committment in their heart. 

5416A committment to lay their marriage at the feet of Jesus.  To surrender and allow God to make their marriage one of strength and beauty.  They opened their hearts in order to allow Jesus to heal the hurts and grow the bond of their marriage.  A marriage devoted to God.

Marriage can be tough enough for ordinary civilian couples. But consider the unique challenges that military families are faced with. Extended separations, frequent moves, unpredictable schedules and difficulties in communicating due to distance or stressors that take place but cannot be voiced.

These military marriage retreats allow couples to focus on God in their marriage and how applying Biblical principles to their circumstances will strengthen them both as a couple and individuals.

Today, Valentine’s Day, the first of two 2014 Military Marriage Retreats will begin at The Cove. 

Please join us in prayer in lifting these 115 couples up for healing, strength, wisdom, rest and renewal.  Pray with us that each person would hear from and be touched by God in a special, meaningful, transforming way.     

Active-duty, Guard and Reserve servicemembers may attend the military marriage retreats, as well as other Cove seminars and Personal Spiritual Retreats throughout the year at no cost to them.  The program, lodging and meals are covered by generous donors who wish to bless these special people. 

There is still space in the June 27-29, 2014 Military Marriage Retreat with The 5 Love Languages author, Gary Chapman.  Click here for more information.

SAVING A SEAT FOR YOU: Coming up in 2014


We have so much to look forward to in the New Year.  Take a look here to see what’s happening at The Cove in 2014. 


Click here for information on the free Women’s Bible studies beginning on January 7th.

Select one of the dates below for more information on the Military Marriage Retreats in 2014:
February 14-16, 2014 with Michael Easley
June 28-30, 2014  with Gary Chapman

And last but not least…

Save the date: An Evening at The Cove with David Phelps on February 13th!

Does Your Love Language Apply to Your Relationship With God?

Does our love language apply to our relationship with God?

Yes, it does! 

Gary Chapman, author of #1 NY Times Bestseller The 5 Love Languages, explains how here.

Don’t know what your love language is?  Not to worry, click here to take a simple test.    

Gary Chapman will be leading a Military Marriage Retreat at The Cove on June 27-29, 2014.  It’s free too!  Registration does not open until October of 2013.  Click here for information on Cove military scholarships.