Kendra’s Bible Study… Video Message Part 1 from John 11

BGTC stone wall with snow on Feb 24 2015Greetings from beautiful snowy Asheville!  Wherever you are reading this, we hope you stay dry and warm.

For those of you who have been attending our Bible study here at The Cove, in person for the last several weeks, you know that we were snowed out for Kendra’s last session.

After the snow cleared, Kendra came in and video recorded the message she prepared for that last night and we are rolling it out here in our blog in three segments.  The first video focuses on John 11: 1-32.  Please read this scripture before viewing the video.

We have posted the three-questions below the video to coincide with the video content (yes, it is a repeat from last week, but we want to keep current with what’s in the video).

After watching the video, instead of sharing your three-questions, Kendra would like you to comment with a sentence or two on the following question: When has God decided to wait in your life?

Video 2 will be featured next week (Tues. March 3) and video 3 (Tues. March 10).

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Kendra Graham NOTES from John 11 (Excerpts)

In this step you need to list the outstanding facts of the passage. DON’T get caught up in the details, just list the facts. Do not paraphrase. Use the actual words of the passage. This is God’s Word, a lot of times this step seems tedious to some, but I urge you, as we read, and say and write God’s Word, it begins to sink deep into our hearts. If you just pick one fact out of the verse, write it down and meditate on it.


Verse 4:       When Jesus heard it (that Lazarus, the one He loved, was sick) He said, “This sickness is not unto death, but for the glory of God.

Verse 6:       When He heard it, He stayed two days longer where He was.

Verse 14:     Jesus said plainly, “Lazarus is dead.”

Verse 15:     “I am glad for YOUR sakes I was not there, so YOU may believe.

Verses 25-26a: “I AM the resurrection and LIFE, he who believes in ME shall LIVE, even if he dies, EVERYONE who loves and believes in ME shall NEVER die.

Verse 26b:   DO YOU BELEIVE?

Verse 27:     She said to Him, “YES, Lord. I have believed You are CHRIST the SON of God even He who comes into the world.”

Verse 32:     When Mary came where Jesus was, she saw Him, fell at His feet, saying, “Lord, if you had, my brother would not have died.”

Look for a lesson to learn from each fact. What are the people doing that they should be doing? What are the people doing that they shouldn’t be doing?

Is there a command to follow? A promise to claim? A warning to heed? An example to follow? Meditate on these. Ask God what lesson it is that He wants you to hear or learn.


Verse 4: There is so much more to our suffering in life than “just to kill us,” which is surely what God wants to do, right? How many of us hold this view of God? IF He is good, how can He allow suffering? God allows suffering to show us His goodness. God allowed two sisters to lose a brother, and a brother to lose his life, to show them His love. We have so many misunderstandings about the compassion and love of God. We think God’s love should look like our personal definition of love. God is not bound by our finite thoughts or feelings, and this is a GOOD thing!

Verse 6: Love often waits, not out of hate, evil or power issues, but out oflLove. We do not understand the compassion of a God who loves us with a relentless love. Trust God in the waiting, even if there is excruciating pain associated with that.

Verse 14: We do not serve a God who is unaware of the difficulties and suffering of life. Jesus does not skate over the facts; He sees it how it is, plainly—there is no time to live in denial. The reality of life is hard, and we serve a God who is not ignorant of that.

Verse 15: Our sorrow, suffering and heartache is not in vain. THERE is Purpose in the Pain, which brings hope. Jesus is more concerned with my eternal soul than with my temporary comfort.

Verse 25-26a: Jesus meets you in the middle of the pain and suffering. You never find Jesus hiding out or running from people, did you realize that? Jesus runs to the hard situation here, full of grief, blame, hurt, tension, and feelings of personal abandonment from Mary and Martha… (ever feel that same way about God?) Jesus waited, yes, but now He will weep with His handmade creation. Jesus tells EVERYONE CLEARLY who He is. Everyone WILL have a confrontation with Jesus, what you do with that is your choice. Jesus either is who He said He is and IS the WAY, TRUTH and LIFE, OR Jesus is the worst kind of humanity, a LIAR who has basically played the role of “pied piper” for ages… NOT bringing people to life, but death. There is no in between. If Jesus isn’t the SON OF GOD, then He truly isn’t even a good man or a prophet. Some think that Jesus is being very “exclusive” here… it’s Him or nothing. I see that as very clear. ALL roads DON’T lead to heaven… but the great thing here is that GOD is CLEAR about which One does!


Verse 27: The hard times are where our faith turns from being something theoretical to being real. It’s not to stroke the ego of Jesus that Martha needed this moment; this moment is for Martha so that she can see, and know in her heart, what she believes. If you want to know what you truly believe about God, your belief is proven in the challenging and hard moments of life, when challenges force choices out of you. Martha worshipped Jesus IN it. This is what it looks like for faith to travel from being talked about in Sunday school circles to being lived out in your life. Your faith (or lack of it) is forced out, in moments like this.

Verse 32: We all have these statements, don’t we? “Lord, if You had…. then….” In the middle of her questions—her grief—notice Mary does not shake her fist and spew her ideas of justice and the love of God, Mary sees Jesus in it and falls at His feet, worships in the middle of her grief, knowing that just because she lost a brother, it doesn’t change the FACT of who Jesus is. All things are under His feet… even those things that He allows in our lives that we wish He didn’t. Often it is the hard stuff—the stuff for which we have more questions than answers—that brings us to the feet of Jesus.

Take the lessons you learned and put them into the form of a personal question that you would ask your spouse, or a friend or your son or daughter.

As you write the questions, listen for God to communicate to you through His Word.

*Do not rush. Do not write things down just to have something on paper, this step takes more time that you may think.   This is where Scripture meditation becomes real, this is where you begin to hear that still small voice speak to you, and place His finger in your life and begin to direct your paths…. this day, and the next, and the next. Do you trust Him enough to put into place that which He is moving you to?

Verse 4: What do you believe about God? Is He a God who cares less about your suffering and is the cause for it? OR Do you believe God is good and wants to use the suffering for a greater purpose? Are you willing to let God use your suffering to bring Him glory?

Verse 6: Are you waiting for God to move and fix things how and when you think they need to be fixed?

Verse 14: Are you willing to be raw and real in the presence of Jesus? Did you realize that He knows the pain, He can plainly see it, and you can just lay it out to Him and call it what it is?

Verse 15: Are you willing to ask God what He wants to do with your pain?

Verse 25-26a: What will you do with Jesus? Who do you say that He is?

Verse 26b: DO YOU BELIEVE?

Verse 27: What do your actions say about your belief, in those hard situations, the crossroads of your life when you are hemmed in? Do your words and actions agree?

Verse 32: Are you willing to just fall at the feet of Jesus in the middle of your pain and let it out? Do you feel guilty telling God you don’t get it, or if You had….? Isn’t it great that we can just lay out our realness at the feet of Jesus and it is not held against us? What posture do you have in your pain in the presence of Jesus?


Hold yourself accountable to LIVE OUT in your daily life that which God impresses upon your heart. Write it out, sign it, date it and claim the transforming power of God’s Word and His presence in your life.

Oh, that you would be compelled to BELIEVE because of the relentless Love of a LIVING, LOVING Savior!!!!

Homework: John 11:35-40

Get stuck? and Anne will walk through the Three Questions with you and help you along!

12 thoughts on “Kendra’s Bible Study… Video Message Part 1 from John 11”

  1. I am 54 years old. In my late 20’s oth my parents died within 8 months of each other.Everyone had prayed and believed they would be healed. I am an only child and was very close to them both since that time my life has been very hard but I have never doubted that God has a purpose for my life, He has given me compassion for others in difficult situations and a listening ear

    1. Thanks you for sharing with us. You are proof that “All things work together for good, for those who are called according to God’s purpose.” Keep being a blessing! Prayers lifted for your heart today.

    1. No…. I am sorry! 🙁 SNOW again anyway! Can you believe it? While it is not possible to get together at the Cove until next year’s study, we are working on some things…. in the meantime. Stay posted. Until then… maybe sharpen me and others with a comment on how God has stirred your heart through this study this year! I think our last evening at the Cove this year was something that we need to treasure for the next 10 months. I wish everyone could have been there. What an amazing and blessed evening in the presence of God! #watchtheLamb #theLambisWorthy

    2. Good morning! Sorry for the delay in response. Kendra’s Bible study at The Cove has finished for the year. We do hope you will follow along online throughout the year. See you next year!

  2. Thank you for sharing, Cheri’! It is comforting to know we pray to a God where, as was mentioned before, “All things work together for good for those called according to His purpose”. We go to a God who not only understands the heartache, but lived it, felt it, carried it, and knows the pain it took to form each tear. Praying for you today, as you continue to weep with those who weep. “May God make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May the LORD lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace.” Numbers 6:25-26

  3. Hi Kendra, thank you for all of your messages. They have all been so encouraging. I was wondering, where in the Bible do you find the reference for “we have a God shaped soul”? I love to think of our soul this way after these sessions, and would love to know where I can see it in the Word. Blessings to you and your family.

    1. Gabrielle,
      Thank you for your question! In Genesis, after God creates all the earth, sun, moon, stars, land, sea, animals with His words; God creates man and woman differently from all other creation. God uses His hands to create man from the dust of the ground and breathed life’s breath into him (Genesis 2:7). In Genesis 2:22, God makes woman from the rib of Adam. In Genesis 2 and 3 God gives Adam charge of creation. No other creation is mentioned as speaking with or walking with God. NO other creation is listed as the capacity to understand what God asks. In Genesis 3:8, God comes to find Adam and Eve in the cool of the day after they had chosen to disobey them. No other creation has been assigned the free will to choose to obey God and what they were created to do or not do except Adam and Eve. This is an important difference to mark. Man and Woman have the freedom to choose to do that which they were created to do, or not.
      Man and woman were created with a soul. There is no other mention of an animal or inanimate object in the Bible created with a soul. What do we do with this soul? Why do we have a soul? What is the point of a soul? (Love the Lord your God with all your heart SOUL and strength. Deuteronomy 6:5) God created the soul, and God can save the soul. God is the ONLY One who can save the soul. If God is the only one who can save the soul, then is this not a soul that is created with Him in mind? Know Him? Walk with Him? Be saved by Him?
      Matthew 16:26 “What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul? What can anyone give in exchange for their soul?” Matthew 10:28 “Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.”
      These verses are the RED words (in the King James Version) of Jesus, God with skin on. These verses tell me: Fact: what good will it be to gain the world yet forfeit soul. Lesson: My soul is separated from God, and all the wealth in the world cannot buy what my soul needs. I fall short. Romans 3:23. Application: Is my soul separated from God?
      Fact: Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but can’t kill the soul. Lesson: Neither Man nor woman is in charge of the soul…. GOD is. Application: Am I more afraid of what can happen to me here during my life by man or after death by God? FACT: Be afraid of the One who can kill both body and soul in hell. Lesson: The wages of sin is DEATH. Romans 6:23 (God was not kidding about that). God’s justice MUST be met to save my soul. Since we can’t meet God’s just standard…. God came Himself, not trusting me to another, and His name is Jesus, Who lived a perfect life and was proven worthy to be the Lamb slain, to pay the wage of death that was on my head, so that my soul would be SAVED. Application: Is my soul saved?
      I know this is a long explanation, but I wanted to add those verses. Our soul was created by God, for God. No one else, nothing else, no other name under heaven was given whereby we (our souls) are saved. Acts 4:12. We have a God shaped soul. The only one who can fit, the only one found worthy to purchase our souls is Jesus (Revelation 5:2). You can try to fit money in your soul to fill it. You can try to fit “stuff” in your soul to fill it. You can try to fit power and control in your soul to fill it. You can try to fit other relationships in your soul to fill it. EVERYTHING will fall short. It may be good for a while… but will never be enough in the end. ONLY those who hunger and thirst for righteousness will be filled (Matthew 5:6). We all hunger and thirst… our souls all hunger and thirst… but will never be satisfied without Jesus, who bridges the gap created by sin in the Garden of Eden. Your soul, my soul, is God shaped… first by His hands in Genesis, then saved by Himself on the cross. Acts 16:31, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you WILL be saved.
      If God created the soul. If God is the only one who can fill the soul, and satisfy the soul, then the soul must be shaped in the Perfect shape of God…. I hope this helps. If you are like me, then we have tried to fit lots of “stuff” into that soul, but until God Himself filled it through the person of Jesus, the Messiah, we came up wanting.

      1. Hi Kendra, thank you! Wonderful lessons, facts, and explanation of the question. I will refer to this often as needed, and appreciate all the supporting verses and applications. I also tried to fill my God shaped soul with everything but God my entire life, until Jesus called me out of my slimy pit, and set my feed upon his solid rock. So thankful Jesus can fill and save our souls. God Bless you and your family.

        1. Gabrielle,
          #relentless&compelled Praise that God goes as far as He had to, to save my soul and yours! #theLambisworthy

  4. I am a Jewish believer and was discipled in the Scriptures from a Jewish perspective which gives a deeper level of understanding of Jesus and why He said and did what He did with the knowledge of His background and His Jewish heritage. Another insight into why He waited before He went to see Lazarus and raise him from the dead is that according to Jewish belief the soul doesn’t leave the body for 4 days, and so by waiting till after those 4 days had elapsed Jesus was performing this miracle of resurrection in a way that the Pharisees or other doubters couldn’t say that Lazarus’ soul was still hanging around and so when he was brought back from the dead it wasn’t a true miracle. That explanation made a lot of sense to me so I thought I’d share it.

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