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Kendra Graham notes from :  Esther 6: 13-14

“And Haman recounted to Zeresh his wife and all his friends everything that had happened to him.  Then his wise men and Zeresh his wife said to him. “If Mordecai, before whom you have begun to fall is of Jewish origin , you will not overcome him, but will surely fall before him.  (14) While they were still talking with him the king’s eunuchs arrived and hastily brought Haman to the banquet which Esther had prepared.”

Step 1



Haman recounted to wife and friends everything that happened to him.

His rise men & wife said, “If Mordecai before whom you have begun to fall is Jewish you will not overcome, fall before him”

While still talking, eunuchs brought Haman to banquet Esther prepared

Step 2

THE LESSONS:   The day had been difficult for Haman.  Haman was second in command of the Persian Empire, but acted a lot like he was first in command.  Haman was prideful, manipulative, scheming, and evil–let’s call it what it is.  Haman wanted to annihilate and utterly destroy the Jews, and no one could stop him, or so he thought.  You see, Haman hadn’t thought twice about the fact that the very name of God is Deliverer and Almighty God.

Chapter 6 ends with these two verses (13 & 14).  Haman, like in verse 13, has begun to fall.  Pride’s demise was beginning to speed up.  When God works, HE works quickly and completely.  Often times we tend to ask where God is because HE IS TAKING FOREVER.  We tend to yell, “God’s not fixing this!” more than we believe God will take care of the matter in His time.  We scream in our hearts, “God don’t you see what that person is doing or has done!?  When will YOU deal with it?”  Often we mistake God’s patience with the sinner for God’s tolerance of sin.  Sin is a BIG deal to God and yes, God will deal with it.  Notice Haman is beginning to fall… his pride is coming down in sheets, and Haman is humiliated.  God DOES NOT HUMILIATE…our own pride and fragile ego humiliate us.  Humiliation is a result of an unwillingness to be humble.  Does that surprise you or disappoint you?  As I looked at this passage with a deeper intensity my heart was broken.  God humbles us, because He hates us?  NO.  Because He loves us.  God opposes the proud, He is far from the proud, the proud are set at opposite ends of the arena from Him, and God’s hand made creation was created not to be far, but to be close.

SO God.. in His grace, humbles us, to bring us near to Him.  God gracefully humbled Mordecai… Mordecai did not get promoted yet stuck his neck out for the king.  God humbled Esther in her three days of fasting… “Trust Me, Esther… it’s not about your position… it’s about your surrender.”  God did not humble them to defeat them, He humbled them to deliver them.  Mordecai and Esther are already delivered, it is not hinging on the decision of the Persian king… it was given by the King of kings.  God is trying to do the same thing to Haman… to humble, not humiliate, to deliver not defeat… the only difference is the response in the end.

God really broke my heart over this passage this week.  God asked in my heart, “Why, Kendra, do you love the book of Esther?”

I had some cheesy replies that sounded really theological and thought through… but God… asked again, “Why do you love the book of Esther…honesty now.”

I blurted out… “Because Haman gets his head on a pike.  I like the fact he is humiliated with Mordecai, and then he whines to his wife and then the last act of his life he begs at the feet of a Jewish woman before he is hung on his own gallows.  I love the irony.  I love the justice.  There are no hanging threads… it’s complete.”

God waited some moments before He stirred my heart again to hear His voice which was drenched with a mixture of sadness, disappointment and grief, then I heard, “You have spoken truthfully.”

Now I was sad, but wasn’t entirely sure why.

Then, the words stung in my heart, “Have you been with Me this long, yet still do not know Me?” John 14:9.  Ouch.

Verses flooded my heart, the first of which was this, “ The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness but it long-suffering towards us, NOT WILLING THAT ANY should perish but that all should come to repentance.”

God placed this pause here… as Haman is being taken… just as Esther was taken in chapter 2 to the palace.  What if Haman repented and didn’t get his head on that pike?  Would I tear or cheer over that?

For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son…  John 3:16, so who is excluded according to me or you?  There is a bounty on the head of Haman… and it is so much more than 10,000 talents of silver or even all the lives of the Jews in the Persian Empire… the bounty demands the blood of a Holy God.  So God paid it.  This is the value of a soul… a single soul.  God spared not His own Son… and so I cheer when someone falls to their eternal demise to satisfy my own warped sense of justice?

So, {sigh} we pause… here, at the end of chapter 6 and leave Haman alive for one more week, so that we can learn to humble ourselves before a holy God and plead for the lives of lost.  A high price was paid for each soul by a relentless God compelled by His great love for the sinner.  I am thankful for the pauses God places in my life.  Let’s not waste this one.  The value of each soul is priceless and precious.  SELAH

Step 3

APPLY IT:  Do you love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you? Matthew 5:44  Will you ask God to show you the value of a soul?

LIVE IT OUT:  Start today being more concerned with the character of God being displayed in my life than the need for revenge or justice.


If you’re in the local area and can attend our free annual Women’s Bible Study at The Cove, it’s not too late to join us!  We’d love to see you in person.

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