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Saturday Snapshot

Over 100 military couples are enjoying rest and renewal at The Cove this weekend for a military marriage retreat. We are blessed to serve these special people.

American Flag with NC Flag May 2015
The United States and North Carolina flags greet our guests upon their arrival.

Are you active-duty, Guard or Reserve military? We’d like you to come to The Cove and it won’t cost you a penny once you get here. Click here to learn more about our military scholarships.

Click here if you are interested in attending our military marriage retreat in September.

2015 Military Marriage Retreats

military marriage

It’s our turn to serve you.

We want to support you and your marriage at The Cove by providing a FREE retreat for any active-duty service-member (Guard & Reserve too) and their spouse.

You will enjoy the quiet seclusion of our mountain retreat, complete with winding trails, well appointed rooms, and celebrated cuisine.

Most importantly, you will have plenty of time and space to be alone with God.  Click here to download the military resource form.

Following are the 2015 Military Marriage Retreats:

Building a Resilient Marriage in Turbulent Times
with John Cook, February 19-20, 2015

Building a Lifelong Love
with Gary Thomas, May 29-31, 2015

Military Marriage Seminar-TBD
with Gary Chapman, September 4-6, 2015

Please share this information with other individuals who would be blessed by this opportunity.

military handsThe Cove also offers financial resources (program, meals and lodging are covered…travel is your responsibility) for couples or individuals to come to any Cove seminar or Personal Spiritual Retreat throughout the year.  For more information on our financial resources, visit our website here.

7 Steps on How to Respond to an Angry Person

Sticks and Stones may Break my Bones But Words Will Always Hurt MeRemember the childhood saying about sticks and stones?  As we all eventually learn, words can cut us to the core.

Have you ever been angry with someone and lashed out with hurtful words or actions you wished you could take back?

Have you noticed that sometimes it is the people closest to us are the first to catch the worst of our anger?  Whether it be a spouse, your child, or a close friend. 

Over the weekend, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, addressed the topic of anger in relationships as he ministered to 150 couples who were attending our military marriage retreat weekend. (Click here to see pictures from the weekend.) 

Anger can be an issue in any marriages, but because of the unique nature of military marriages with long periods of separation and sometimes very little communication, this emotion rears its ugly head all too often.   In an effort to provide helpful tools that can be applied to any relationship, Dr. Chapman shared the following 7 steps on how to respond to an angry person:

1. Listen to the person who is angry.  Hear them out.  Just LISTEN.  James 1:19 tells us,  Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.  Try to remember that the person who is angry with you is angry because, in their mind, you did wrong.  You will never get to the root of the issue until you listen and find out what is/has bothered the angry person.

2. Listen to the person who is angry.  Yes, we are repeating step 1–that’s how important it is!  In most cases, people don’t hear most of what was said the first time.  In the heat of the moment, angry word poured it out to you, but you didn’t hear it all.

3. Listen to the person who is angry.  Are you starting to get the gist of how important listening is?  Listen at least 3 times.  The issue will not be resolved until the angry person has been very clearly heard.

4. Seek to understand the angry person.  Put yourself in their shoes and try to see the world through their eyes.  You cannot have a proper understanding until you understand where they are coming from.

5. Express understanding to the angry person.  Try a statement like this: “If I were in your shoes, I’m sure I would be angry also.”   6. Share additional information.  You can now give your perspective on the situation.  The benefit of this step is that through this process you are teaching others how to respond to an angry person. (This is also an excellent way to model healthy communication in front of your children.)

7. Confess any wrongdoing.   Admit your wrongdoing if they have a legitimate reason for their anger.  This step will also build trust.  It’s a big step for most people to admit when they are wrong.

Active-duty, Guard and Reserve military service-members can attend seminars, concerts and retreats at The Cove at no costClick here for more information.

Click here to see what’s going on at The Cove in the coming months.

2014 Military Marriage Retreats

2014 Military Marriage flyerFor more information on the February retreat, click here.
For more information on the June retreat, click here.

The Cove also offers financial resources (program, meals and lodging are covered…travel is your responsibility) for couples or individuals to come to any Cove seminar or Personal Spiritual Retreat throughout the year.  For a full listing of events to choose from, visit our website here.

You will enjoy the quiet seclusion of our mountain retreat, complete with winding trails, well appointed rooms, and celebrated cuisine. Most importantly, you will have plenty of time and space to be alone with God.  Click here to download the military resource form.

Please share this information with other individuals who would be blessed by this opportunity.

FREE Military Marriage Retreats at The Cove

It is an honor to support our brave men and women in the military.  Active duty, guard and reserve military personnel and their spouses are invited to a FREE Military Marriage Retreat on February 15-17 (June 28-30 too, see below) at The Cove in Asheville, NC. 

Participants will refresh their spirits as they stroll our extensive mountain trails, connect with new friends, and experience life-changing Bible teaching with a unique perspective on military marriages. 

Our speaker, John Cook, Chaplain (Army Colonel – Retired), has spent the vast majority of his life associated with the military and has a keen understanding of the challenges facing military families today. Pastor Cook currently serves as senior pastor at Snyder Memorial Baptist Church in Fayetteville, N.C.   

“One of the things that God has revealed to me at The Cove Military Marriage retreat was we’ve been married for 16 years and the fact that we should never get complacent in our marriage.
No matter where you are, no matter whether you’re a newlywed or have been married for 30 years that you always need to grow.”

– 2012 Military Marriage Retreat Participant –

Would you like to spend Valentine’s Day with us too?  Come one day early for time to relax and enjoy an Evening at The Cove with Brandon Heath.  You will enjoy a delicious dinner and a worshipful concert while celebrating your love for one another.   Coming a day early can be included in your scholarship too!

“Our experience at the Cove was an absolute blessing.  We were both refreshed and renewed in our love for one another and our commitment to our marriage, our family, and our relationship with Jesus Christ.  The fact that the Military Scholarship Program made it  free of charge for us to attend, made it so much better and alleviated a financial burden.”
– Military Seminar Participant –

Space is limited so if you or someone you know is interested, register today.

We also have a Military Marriage retreat on June 28-30.  Click here for more information and to register.   

You will need to complete a short 1-page application for the military scholarship and fax it to (828) 771-4808 or mail it to: 

The Billy Graham Training Center at The Cove
Attention Military Awards Committee
PO Box 19223
Asheville, NC 28815

Click here to download your military marriage retreat scholarship form.